Re: All That's Left is the Horror.....
My good friend told me about grief, "It never hurts less, just less often" That is so true.. The first year is the worst..
My mom died of cancer 5 years ago.. My best friend too.. I feel alone too.. She was probably the only person who "got" me.. Who knew the real me..
And the picture thing? I get that.. my brother in law took pics after my mom died and my sis and I were just APPALLED. We said.. delete that.. We don't want that.. She died of liver failure from bile duct cancer.. She didn't look like herself..
But then, my mom's one friend said, i'm going to take pics at the funeral and send them to you, and we were O.O WHAT?!?! NO!! We do NOT want pics from her funeral!?!? are you crazy?!?! And she said, but don't you want a remembrance of all the people that were there and loved her? NO. We are well aware.. So.. I think people have different views (by the way, I hope that story made you chuckle.. even now, it makes me laugh, b/c seriously? pictures of a funeral? but my friend told me when her aunt died, they found a whole SCRAPBOOK of funerals.. creeeepyyy)
But, on the other note, my sister didn't want to include any pics of my newborn and my mom in the wake pictures, b/c "she looks like she's going to die" Well, my mom died when my daughter was 2 weeks old, so yes, of course she looked like she was going to die, b/c.. um.. SHE WAS!! But, I said, this is the only picture my youngest will have of herself with her Oma, and IT'S GOING IN.. So, I guess it's all relative.. My sister didn't want a pic of my mom looking sick.. I wanted a pic of my mom with her newborn granddaughter, and it meant something to me..
It's all relative...