Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.
Anyone saying any of these things would probably piss me off as trying to minimize my pain. But I do have multiple things to be grateful for.
It was heartbreaking to walk out of the maternity wing empty handed. But I was going home to two beautiful girls we both love so much. If we were going home empty handed to an empty home it would be so much harder.
We left our 13 y/o daughter with a good, dear friend. She's got two boys the same age as our son and daughter and they are both close. It was a good place for her to be because that friend is a wonderful mom, plus her husband is a youth counselor. Our friend was also watching another friend of hers daughter while the that other friend went on a cruse with several other couples. We had no idea, but that friend lost twins 5 years ago at 6 months. So my daughter was leaning on a girl who went through this herself. They didn't sleep much, but they cried together... she needed to do that, and being with somebody who let her do that instead of forcing to be tough was great.
But most of all: I'm so glad my marriage is in a better place. 5 years ago this would have been the end of us. My wife voiced the same thought to me last night. I told her that she can feel whatever she feels, grieve however she needs to, and I only ask that she turns to me for comfort. That I can face any of this, so long as I know she sees me as her closest support. That's when she made the comment that 5 years ago it would have been over for us and that's she's grateful we're in a better place now.
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