I officially declare 2013 a sucky year. - Page 5 - Talk About Marriage
Dealing with Grief and Loss The grieving process is difficult. When we lose someone close to us, we go through many different emotions.

User Tag List

 120Likes
Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
post #61 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-02-2013, 05:45 AM
Member
 
Join Date: Aug 2012
Location: In the fort behind the sofa
Posts: 5,278
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Just saw this

So sorry, Larry


“The time's gone by for sentiment and all that foolery. Mercy's all very well but after all it's justice that clinches the bargain.”


“The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.”
Malaise is online now  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
post #62 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-02-2013, 05:55 AM
Member
 
Gaia's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: Flew up north!
Posts: 6,617
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Same here... Willing things to get better for you larry.

"Feelings get you in relationships quickly, and feelings get you out of relationships quickly. Feelings do not fill in the for the sacrifice and dedication needed to make a relationship work. Feelings get themselves hurt." ~Nsweet~
Ignorance is an equal opportunity employer.~DedicatedDad~
Gaia is offline  
post #63 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-02-2013, 06:50 AM
Member
 
happyman64's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: New York
Posts: 7,296
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Wow Larry,

Just saw this thread. Very sorry to hear.

My wife suffered a miscarriage between my 1st and 2nd daughter so I know the feelings you guys are going through.

Your family is in my prayers.

HM64
happyman64 is offline  
 
post #64 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-16-2013, 02:05 PM
Member
 
Oldrandwisr's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Pacific NW
Posts: 1,443
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Larry,

I've been gone way too long on vacation. So sorry I didn't see it until today. I felt so heartbroken reading this.

Wish there was a way you could take a break from grief. You are on the right track with the counseling service. Thank you for sharing such a difficult situation.

We are here with you through any tough times.

Life is messy - clean it up.
May you be so fortunate … To be surrounded by people who will help you get untangled from the things that are binding you. And, may you always know the joy of giving and receiving gratitude.
Oldrandwisr is offline  
post #65 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-16-2013, 11:55 PM Thread Starter
Member
 
larry.gray's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 5,382
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Just had the interview today with the grief counselor. They want to prep the leaders of the various groups so they know what's coming. My son will be in a 8-12 y/o group and both girls will be in a teen group.
larry.gray is offline  
post #66 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-17-2013, 10:58 AM
Member
 
badcompany's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2010
Posts: 810
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

I'm so sorry Larry.
Both my kids are absolute animals(we call my 16 month old son the "destroyer"), but I can't imagine life without them.

"It's not until you've lost everything that you're free to do anything." Fight Club

"And you can't really love until you've given up on it"
Rise Against-Satellite
badcompany is offline  
post #67 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-21-2013, 10:41 AM
Member
 
Lordhavok's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2012
Location: down south
Posts: 1,058
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

sorry larry, hang in there man

The All-Father wove the skein of your life a long time ago. Go and hide in a hole if you wish, but you won't live one instant longer. Your fate is fixed. Fear profits a man nothing.
Lordhavok is offline  
post #68 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-25-2013, 01:52 PM
Member
 
ShockwaveRider's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2013
Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 78
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Quote:
Originally Posted by larry.gray View Post
On July 18th, my mom lost her 18 month long battle with cancer.

Yesterday, which should have been just a happy, last visit to the OBGYN instead delivered devastating news. Instead, the doctor couldn't find a heartbeat. An ultrasound confirmed, the baby passed yesterday sometime.

We've got a nursery ready, car seat, baby stuff... and now we're at the hospital. No baby will be going home with us.
Good Lord Larry.

That's most savagely heart-breaking thing I've ever READ.

I've been avoiding TAM (for obvious reasons) and then was just checking back and find THIS.

You're right; 2013 has blown beyond BELIEF.

Shockwave
ShockwaveRider is offline  
post #69 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-25-2013, 04:53 PM
Member
 
moto164's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2013
Location: socal
Posts: 2,521
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Sorry Larry
Will pray for you and your family
moto164 is offline  
post #70 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-25-2013, 11:48 PM
Member
 
Join Date: Feb 2013
Posts: 562
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Larry 2013 is almost over, I am so sorry to read what you went through. I hope 2014 is better for you and everyone on this board.

2galsmom is offline  
post #71 of 83 (permalink) Old 09-27-2013, 01:03 AM Thread Starter
Member
 
larry.gray's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 5,382
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Thanks again folks.

We had a pretty good first grief counseling session. The kids didn't want to go, but they made it fun so they want to go back.

Talk about frigging depressing stories though... We had a mom and daughter there. The husband / dad died, and then the son / brother committed suicide.
larry.gray is offline  
post #72 of 83 (permalink) Old 10-03-2013, 11:13 AM
Member
 
southern wife's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2011
Location: The Wine Cellar
Posts: 10,162
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Larry,

I just wanted to see how you, the wife, and kids are doing.

~~~ SW ~~~
southern wife is offline  
post #73 of 83 (permalink) Old 10-04-2013, 12:12 AM Thread Starter
Member
 
larry.gray's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 5,382
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Doing OK. We have our 6 week followup appointment tomorrow. Lots of questions, and I kinda figure there's probably not going to be a lot of answers.

We've had two of the counseling sessions now, the kids seem to like them. The adult groups are rather intense! I do feel bad for a couple of ladies that are dealing with insensitive husbands....

Our middle kid is rather sensitive at the moment. Our marriage is pretty good now, but she's still insecure from before. Dang, it's been three years now, but she's still sensitive. Our son was being a royal PIA this morning getting ready for school. Neither of us were upset with each other, but both of us were on him hard. She kind of broke down, all stemming from when we were at each other before. She just needs time I'm sure.
larry.gray is offline  
post #74 of 83 (permalink) Old 10-06-2013, 09:38 AM
Member
 
Anon Pink's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2013
Posts: 10,343
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Wow, Larry I'm so very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the pain and always feel so guilty because I am so grateful that I have no personal experience with the pain of losing a child.

It feels like little Michael Alexander was to be the child of the new and improved Mr and Mrs Larry. I don't know what took place in your marriage before but I hope Michael Alexander's legacy lives on. The product of love equals a baby, 1+1=3. I hope things get easier for you both.

I was very lucky during my anim horriblis, the school responded and started a grief group built around kids with sick parents, then they started a group for kids dealing with grief and loss. Both groups were very helpful and of course my daughter loved being pulled out of class! I'm glad you made your kids attend the grief group. It was a very smart thing to do.
Anon Pink is offline  
post #75 of 83 (permalink) Old 10-12-2013, 10:57 PM
Banned
 
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 13
Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

You'll both be in my prayers.
Micfhelle is offline  
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now



In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.

User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.

Password:


Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.

Email Address:
OR

Log-in









Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
2013 a newish start a year on after seperation brendan Life After Divorce 1 01-12-2013 08:38 AM
Declare your Independence sadand Going Through Divorce or Separation 5 07-05-2011 10:38 AM

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off

 
For the best viewing experience please update your browser to Google Chrome