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post #1 of 84 (permalink) Old 08-24-2013, 01:03 PM Thread Starter
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I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

On July 18th, my mom lost her 18 month long battle with cancer.

Yesterday, which should have been just a happy, last visit to the OBGYN instead delivered devastating news. Instead, the doctor couldn't find a heartbeat. An ultrasound confirmed, the baby passed yesterday sometime.

We've got a nursery ready, car seat, baby stuff... and now we're at the hospital. No baby will be going home with us.

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larry I'm so sorry for you and your wife. That is heartbreaking.
You'll both be in my prayers.

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I'm so sorry for your mother's passing and the loss of your child. That's utterly devastating.
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Oh Larry, I am so so sorry for you and your wife. I don't even know what to say. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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I'm sorry, I can't even imagine how you must feel. Feel free to declare it, you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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Right now just devastated. I took the car seat out last night, and put it in the nursery. I knew I won't want to look at that tonight or tomorrow when we leave.
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Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

Larry, I don't know if you and your wife want to do this, but I'll put this out there in case you are interested. There's a national organization called Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep, whose professional photographers offer at no cost gentle and sensitive photos of baby to parents who have experienced a loss such as yours.

https://www.nowilaymedowntosleep.org/

Here's the coordinator for Oregon.

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I am so sorry to hear about this Larry. You have my deepest Aloha and hope for gentle rains to brings forth a the beauty of the ʻōhiʻa lehua soon. This flower is thought to bring good blessings. And, my prayer is that the year ends with its blessings.
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Re: I officially declare 2013 a sucky year.

That just really hard to even read, I can't imagine living it. Thinking of you.
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Please consider grief counseling as well. I think we all wish we were able to do more for you.
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Larry, I am so sorry. Praying HARD for you and your family right now.

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Larry..we lost our first child a little girl at 8 months, no heart beat was found at my regular monthly appointment as well. I went into labor that evening and had what they called a "still birth". My prayers are with the two of you. It takes time to heal from the lose of a child....it is one of the most painful things a parent has to go thru. Hang in there!
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Larry, I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Please know that I'm thinking about you, your wife and family at this time.
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Thanks for all of the well wishes. Mom is physically OK, but utterly heartbroken.
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Ugh My heart goes out to you and your wife. Such a hard time.

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