my sister's grief
My sister's husband died very suddenly last year of a heart attack. He was 59, they had been married for 37 years, and had only one child, a son.
She was, and is, completely devastated. She is a professional with a long term senior position, and working seems to help, a bit. But other than that, she cannot get past her loss - she misses her best friend and husband enormously.
I live out of state, and cannot be there for her like I wish I could be. Plus, as the younger sister, I had never married, but was engaged at the time of her husband's death. Needless to say, our wedding plans were cut short, due to this grief and shock that all of my family was experiencing.
I feel guilty that my wedding was short-changed, and my husband and I have spent so much time addressing her grief, versus celebrating our love and 1st year of marriage. I feel I am paying more attention to my sister's needs, than my new husband's, and this worries me. Any advice, please?