05-18-2010, 03:30 PM
Join Date: May 2010
| | wife's grandmother died
I'll try to be brief. Three days ago my wife's grandmother died. They were close and the news has been hard on her. I've consoled her the best I can. We have no family remotely close to us. We were planning on flying out this weekend to attend the memorial. Last night she hadn't heard anything and asked that I call to find information out. I was then informed by a third party that her grandmother had already been cremated. My wife took this very badly and sees it as an insult not to have even been given the opportunity to pay her last respects. I agree with her that the situation wasn't handled properly.
This morning I left work early and she thanked me for being there for her. I then informed her that I still needed to go to a required dinner I was supposed to attend for work tonight and she explodes!!! My wife has some control issues (to the point that my closet is color coordinated, labelled, and filled with only clothes she has purchased.) She has never liked that I need to attend these monthly dinners and we get into a fight each time a go. In fact, we get into a fight each time I want to do anything independently. She then starts in with the verbal abuse, calling me a worthless piece of $#!%, and an uncaring @$$hole. She then took off her ring and told me she hated me.
I know that people grieve differently, but it feels to me as though she is being unreasonable and using her grandmother's death as another way in which she can control me.
Am I being out of line for asking for two hours to go to this required dinner?