Re: Codepency ended my marriage. Asking for advice on this process
I recommend Codependent No More.. A lot.. It's really good.. Really realized MY role in my marriage with a pill popping alcoholic.. And I had a role.. Not saying I was or am responsible for his drinking, or his cheating, but I was a big time enabler, and became passive aggressive b/c it was all I *could* be.. (which I'm NOT by nature, so I'm hoping that will resolve itself)
It's a very good book on helping YOU understand how YOU need to change YOU to become a better caretaker of YOU.. See all those YOUS in there? Not one her... It's not about her anymore.. It's about you, and your kids.. That's it.. End of story..
It's time to take care of YOU.. It is okay.. And it's RIGHT to do so.. Good luck.. I do understand.. I'm not codependent usually by nature, but, as she said in the book, being married to an alcoholic will surely make you one! And it did..