Wife lost her father and now she left me
My wife lost her dad 3 months ago after a 7 yr. illness. She said that she didn't except that he was dieing untill days before he went. We got into a arguement the night her dad died. like an hour before he died. we have 4 kids and have been married for 17yrs. one week before he died while we were at the hospital my oldest left home with a boy and we busted her at like 2 am. well I was trying to balance raising kids, going visit her dad, financial trouble, and entertaining 5 of her family members that she didnt even know well that were staying at our home for like 2 weeks. all the while trying to work, and losing thousands in sales. I was told that her dad could fight and and last for months. Dont take me wrong I loved her dad, we were friends before I met my wife. I miss him every day but I was trying to get a grip on my family before we lost everything. we argued about her only going visit him at night. she would sleep all day and leave me with her family every night. I was trying to get her to spend the days with him until things got worse. boy was I wrong! what was I thinking I write this and cant belive what I was doing! I really didn't think it through. and you would know as soon as I opened my mouth bam gone. I've said I'm sorry and I was so wrong more times than I can count. she sometimes says it's ok but I know its not. I screwed up bad. now 3 months later she ups and leaves to her moms 400 miles away, she left the kids with me and said I'm a good father but she died when her father died and I need to move on. I just can't understand that a little arguement at the wrong time would create all this. I messed up and I know it but now i'm forced to raise 4 kids alone, run a business, all the while with a big hole in my heart. what can I do? Is it me? or is it her dad?