07-15-2010, 06:59 PM
Join Date: Jul 2010
| | Sudden loss of young pet, plunges my husband in to Depression/Alcoholism
Last month our 2 year old special boy cat died tragically. It was a horrible experience that I felt I went through mostly alone. Then he died anyway. We spent all of our savings and went in to serious debt trying to save his life. Our mistake. (Maybe mine, there is no way to know.) I was making all the decisions because he simply wasn't involving himself. He was so near and dear to him that I think he was incapable of really making any decisions on the cats behalf.
We were both distraught with the loss, and continued on with our lives as normally as we could. The emptiness in the house faded, and I thought we were moving past it. Getting back to normal. I was wrong.
My husband plunged further and further in to a depressive state and alcohol abuse. He won't get help for either. Neither therapy or rehab or medication are an option. He simply will not do it.
Last night he came home and said he just wants to be alone forever and we need to get a divorce. I'm shocked, I'm not sure if it was the booze talking, and I don't know what to think.
I'm willing to wait for him to come out of his slump and welcome him back with open arms. But he seems to think he always feels this way & that he will feel this way forever and that we should just end it now before "it's too late." (Personally I think this is just another responsibility cop-out).
This sort of behavior also arose when he grandfather died a few years ago when we first got together. He came out of it rather quickly and we have managed to live happily for years since.
What do you think?? Should we end it, or should I press the issue of waiting it out for a while? It's just a cat. What happens when his parents pass??