Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: SoCal / San Diego
Yesterday, my wife learned that her oldest brother passed away - Unfortunately, this brought a mixed bag of emotions from her as this was the brother that sexually assaulted her in her early teens - before I met her.
IMO - the guy was scum, never amounted to much, spent the last 15 years of his life as a homeless, drug-addicted bum. If they bury him, and I ever find out where, I'll piss on his grave.
After my wife and I met, she did her very best to avoid this brother - but she never mentioned the assaults to any other family members. I'm fine with that unless one of her other brothers starts going on about what a good/decent guy he was. I may have to bite my tongue and leave it up to my wife to tell the truth.
Bear in mind that we've been married over 30 years. We've come to terms with this part of her past - but I know that she is experiencing conflicting emotions...
Luckily, there is quite a bit of anonymity posting to forums and I needed to get this off my chest.