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post #1 of 46 (permalink) Old 03-28-2014, 12:30 PM Thread Starter
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My heart is aching. My mom passed away early this morning. Complete and total shock. SHe was getting better, preparing to come home in a couple weeks... and then yesterday, BAM! She was declining, kidneys failing, liver, lungs not working right... I'm still numb, and explaining to the kids broke my heart. My oldest boy and my daughter understood what I was saying... the youngest couldn't quite grasp it. Dad is a mess. And we just cannot fathom HOW this happened! I mean, she was doing better. VISIBLY better. I am just lost...

She went into the hospital in the first place with a broken hip, which they repaired and put a partial replacement. Then che contracted C.diff.. (google it. Nasty bacteria). They thought it was all gone... like i said, she was set to come home in 2 weeks. Then yesterday, just a very swift decline. My niece's 6th birthday is Tuesday, and we have no idea how to boost her spirits this close to her birthday.

It truly does feel like this is happening to someone else.


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Prayers go up and out from Central Texas for you and your entire family, Marichi!

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I am so sorry...

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That is horrible, Maricha. We never know how much time we have left, do we? It puts the thread about aging in perspective. Your poor Dad! Death is always a shock, even when we know that it is coming.

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Sorry for your loss

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Oh no, I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I am so sorry to hear this. I will include you and your family in my prayers.

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I'm so sorry Maricha.
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I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my brother very suddenly in 2011. Never saw it coming. It took me a year to get over it, but his was a violent death.

I hope you have a strong support system. You will need it.
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Damn I'm so sorry Maricha. Big Bandit hug comin at ya.

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It is so shocking when a loved one appears to be somewhat better and then the next thing they are gone. It has happened to me a couple of times.

I am sorry for your loss and hope you get, and give yourself, lots of TLC.
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Thanks everyone. I think it's starting to sink in. We do have a wonderful support network, and I am so thankful for them.

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Sorry for your loss, Maricha. Your family is in our thoughts.

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So very sorry Maricha. God bless and comfort your family in your grief.

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So very sorry for you loss Maricha. I don't know another way to say I'm sorry your mother died and I'm sorry that hurts so much and I'm sorry you're going through this and the loss of a mother is such an acute loss and the hole in your chest sucks the wind out of your lungs and I hope you find strength and continue to breathe until the whole in your chest is something your grow accustomed to because it doesn't close up with time. I am so sorry.
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