Re: Losing a parent.............
I have been there as a 15 year-old. The hardest part is not having control over the situation. You have to accept that sometimes you are powerless. Just make every moment count as much as possible. It hurt a lot for me, when my father was in a lot of pain and did not recognize me anymore. It was hard for my mother to pull the plug, but the suffering was too great. As a 15 year-old, i would hope for a cure,, I wish I was more intelligent and came up with a solution, and I hated myself, that I was not more than I was. I think people go through it differently. Next month is the 11th anniversary of his death. Sad to say though, death does become easier to deal with as you go through it more often. I think it becomes easier to accept over time. I lost a few uncles, an aunt, a few cousins, and a couple of friends over the years.
My father wanted to go home before he died, but it was not possible. My mother had his casket go by the home before he was buried. I wish we could have given him that.
I am such a tree hugger because it gives me wood!