Re: Coded messages
Thank you all for your messages and advice, it's very much what I needed.
I haven't updated my situation in a bit but it has taken a turn. After much consideration, I decided to meet with my ex and discuss these matters out of respect for the wonderful relationship we did have. It occurred to me, after lots of advice and thought, how much this passive form of communication will ruin what we DID have and what we could have if things change. The communication in itself isn't right as he is trying to repair his split (ex) marriage. And there is so much room for error in hurt in these subliminal posts.
So, for two reasons, I told him I won't be communicating with him and I will be stepping away from social media. One, to give him the chance to fully look at his decision without me in the rear view. Two, if he decides to stay there, to preserve the incredible memories we had together without tainting them with all this hurt, doubt, and uncertainty that this social media quasi-communication will bring.
He understood and our conversation was very open and loving. Which is what I miss about us. No hard feelings. He told me he loved me. I don't really know how things are going at "home" with his ex-wife, other than the fact that counseling has been halted for now. I miss him and love him very much. This is extremely difficult in so many ways. I have closed my social media account, but his remains open and public. He continues to post some things that speak to him mourning. Things about not letting go, things about him having a hard time keeping busy..then normal things about his kids and all.
I want to hold onto hope that he will take the time to really soul search and maybe come back. Till then, I will maintain no contact and I am starting with a therapist to help me through the process.
Last edited by Vapbt; 11-14-2015 at 02:49 PM.