Been there jld - it is the worst possible experience imaginable. I would have gladly taken a bullet to the head if it could have saved my son's life - and still would.
Oh my god. Oh my god, no kidding. I would take his cancer any day, die right now if I could spare him of that. So would my husband.
Oh, God, why could it not have been me?
I haven't read the book, I avoid any books / films about dying or sick children.
Sweetheart, it is not that. It is about sharing our honest feelings with our spouses. It is about being completely vulnerable with them. Opening our hearts, letting them see our wounds. And seeing theirs in return.
Totally agree on not reading about our situations. I cannot bear it, either. I almost could not read your post this morning after I saw the word "cancer" and "teenager" in it.
And even then, I had to go find my son and tell him how much I loved him, and ask him if he is happy with his life. I don't know how much longer we will have him, you know? What if his cancer is back tomorrow? Life is so fragile.
My husband called a little bit ago and I told him about your thread. He will read it tonight. He said you cannot expect your wife to carry you. He said she is carrying her own load, and you need to help her.
It is so hard for a mother, GG. I carried my son in my womb, nursed him over 3 years. His death would devastate Dug, no doubt. But I am his mother. You just cannot compare the impact, and what it can do to a woman.