Re: My GF's (Soon to be Ex) Killed Himself, Advice?
I hope you're holding up. One thing that stood out to me is that you called her selfish. You also mentioned that you and your kids were grieving as well. Regarding that, there is no comparison so if you expect her to comfort you, you are asking too much. You guys didn't lose anyone.
And calling her selfish for whatever reason makes no sense during these early days.
My boyfriend (now husband) was a great source of comfort, mainly because he was there when we could steal a moment but the kids came first because they were grieving hard in the early days and first 3-4 months. I was long divorced and didn't cry until about six months later other than the first day, and that was for my kids.
He helped there too. He's a widower so that helped, has no kids of his own.
If you haven't been in contact, maybe a card to acknowledge her pain, and take back the selfish comment, with no expectation of a response. If that had been said to me I'd have never looked back.
Of course, others are giving you advice to examine the entire relationship. Me, I'm trying to look out for everyone in the moment. Peace to you.