Re: My GF's (Soon to be Ex) Killed Himself, Advice?
I didn't mean to imply you tell them at the funeral. I must have misread what you wrote. It would have been better to have let them know the truth before, so that if anyone there talks about it, they don't hear it in total surprise.
Yes, you can make those suggestions if she is open to them. My kids lost their father unexpectedly (we had been divorced for a few years and he was remarried). Only one of mine was open to therapy (middle child, a teen).
But all three have deep faith and relied on that. I didn't force my youngest, who was a preteen but she came to me when sadness overwhelmed her. My oldest was already out on his own. I was dating at the time and that helped me. My ex had many issues as well.
You can also help her get the kids signed up for social security death benefits. The sooner she gets started, the sooner they will get benefits started. She can file too if the marriage was ten or more years. I never filed for myself since I am disabled but it helped out with the kids.
I hope all goes as well as it can for her family and yours.