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Dealing with Grief and Loss The grieving process is difficult. When we lose someone close to us, we go through many different emotions.

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post #16 of 21 (permalink) Old 12-28-2016, 03:04 PM
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Don't know if this is relevant to you but I went for a long time without sleeping well.

Finally figured out that the aspartame in diet soda messed with my sleep.

Haven't had a diet soda in 3 years and now sleep quite well.

And it has the added benefit of making me think about how much I've had. When you have diet it's easy to think you can have more, but I'll have a can of coke and think about how I don't need more and will stop.

I really enjoy a it but all soda is garbage.
I had a hard time with sleeping too. When my father was diagnosed, I ended up taking Ambien and AD. I didn't take the AD for long because of a side effect, but the Ambien stuck with me for years. Unfortunately, I became reliant on it. I finally decided to stop taking it when I had to have a surgery and was unable to take it the night before my surgery. It was a good time for me to stop.

OP-this is just something for you to think about (as if you don't have enough).


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I had a hard time with sleeping too. When my father was diagnosed, I ended up taking Ambien and AD. I didn't take the AD for long because of a side effect, but the Ambien stuck with me for years. Unfortunately, I became reliant on it. I finally decided to stop taking it when I had to have a surgery and was unable to take it the night before my surgery. It was a good time for me to stop.

OP-this is just something for you to think about (as if you don't have enough).
Are you now able to sleep?
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Are you now able to sleep?
I still have trouble sleeping, here & there. It's not relating to my fathers illness/death anymore though; it's my marriage that I think about in the middle of the night.

I'll take a Melatonin when I start having trouble. Or if I'm not feeling well (usually headaches or pelvic pain), I'll take Ibuprofen PM.

OP-it's not uncommon for people to reflect on their relationships when they lose a loved one. I've heard of lots of folks doing it, including myself.

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I still have trouble sleeping, here & there. It's not relating to my fathers illness/death anymore though; it's my marriage that I think about in the middle of the night.

I'll take a Melatonin when I start having trouble. Or if I'm not feeling well (usually headaches or pelvic pain), I'll take Ibuprofen PM.

OP-it's not uncommon for people to reflect on their relationships when they lose a loved one. I've heard of lots of folks doing it, including myself.
If you drink any diet soda or otherwise ingest aspartame I highly recommend you throw it out


Your last paragraph is right.....I cleaned out my friend house after my dad passed. Cut out people that didn't bring anything positive to my life.....I've been much better off for it.
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Please accept my condolences for your loss.

I recommend grief counseling... definitely. It will do you a world of good.

And please do not leave your boyfriend hanging. He's confused as to how to treat you now. If it is too painful to grieve your dad and be in a relationship, then you need to set your boyfriend free and let him go live his life. You cannot have him and ignore him both.
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Please accept my condolences for your loss.

I recommend grief counseling... definitely. It will do you a world of good.

And please do not leave your boyfriend hanging. He's confused as to how to treat you now. If it is too painful to grieve your dad and be in a relationship, then you need to set your boyfriend free and let him go live his life. You cannot have him and ignore him both.
I completely agree with you.. and I've said this to my boyfriend as well. He told me he doesn't want to lose me and that he is here to support me. I just am trying to figure out the best way to go forward.
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