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Dealing with Grief and Loss The grieving process is difficult. When we lose someone close to us, we go through many different emotions.

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post #1 of 24 (permalink) Old 01-17-2012, 02:04 PM Thread Starter
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Today is the birthday of my twins,33 yrs. old ! Boy and a girl. I lost the boy 8 yrs. ago to suicide. Holidays are still a bit less joyous but the birthday really gets me. I remember exactly the day they were born and all that was happening. I dont know if my daughter feels this way on this day but, sure wish I could see him now as a grown man and tell him how proud I am of him,just as I do her.
I dont know what the point of this is,except I just wanted to say it.

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Much love to you. Losing a child is probably the worst thing a person can go through...especially suicide.


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So sorry for your loss.
I can not think of anything more devestating than experiencing a child's death, it just is not supposed to go this way in life. I bet your daughter thinks of him often.

I watched a movie called "Courageous" the other day with my sons.... and this one father lost his daughter to a drunk driver, she was about 10 yrs old, he was always too busy to go to her recitals , or dances she was in, Mom used to get angry with him....he felt horrible after she died, it has this scene where he was out in the grass....dancing, imagining dancing with his daughter, the dance they didn't get to have in life - he did it for her, for himself. I started balling , I just can't imagine how hard it would be ....all the unlived years we wanted to see them experience & enjoy.

I am good friends with a family who lost one of their sons to a drunk driver, about the same age as your son would have been, the pain has eased some over these years , but still they long to be reunited with him, they hold strong in their faith-believing they will see him again someday.

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So sorry for your loss.
My dadhad an identical twin brother who passed away at 36 years of age. He was a lovely gentle man. I was only 10 when he passed but I still remember him fondly.
My dad never got over the loss of his twin and when my dad passed away 2 years ago it was a comfort to know that they were reunited. My grandma never got over the loss of her son. A part of her died on that day too. Such a terrible thing to see your child go before you.
I hope you find comfort in your memories and I'm sure your daugter thinks of him often. You will see him again one day.
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No parent should have to outlive his child.

Man that is so sad. Lovin' vibes to you and your family<<<<<<<
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I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to you today and always.
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suicide is aweful. I lost my mom to it when i was 16. I dont think I'll ever really get it.
Im sorry for your loss....
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I'm so sorry! How awful for you. My best friend committed suicide just before she turned 30, leaving a 22 month old behind. I remember her Dad said that the depression was like a cancer that she fought against, but finally succumbed.

That was the saddest funeral I've ever been to. Her mom passed away from breast cancer a year ago, and I fondly think of them having a reunion on the other side. Makes it seem a little less sad.
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I can't even think of any words to say. Except I'm profoundly sorry for your pain.
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Oh, JSA, I am so sorry. I also lost my beautiful daughter a couple of years ago. She was severely handicapped and her tired little body just couldn't go any further.
I think of her every day and I try to remember the good times, there were lots of them. My daughter was not expected to live past the age of 12. With lots of love and dedication, she brought joy to our hearts for nearly 25 years.
Never second guess yourself and never wonder what you did wrong. It is not your fault.
I think that God somehow puts at risk kids with parents that can handle it. I am pretty sure that's what He did in our case anyway.
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Today is the birthday of my twins,33 yrs. old ! Boy and a girl. I lost the boy 8 yrs. ago to suicide. Holidays are still a bit less joyous but the birthday really gets me. I remember exactly the day they were born and all that was happening. I dont know if my daughter feels this way on this day but, sure wish I could see him now as a grown man and tell him how proud I am of him,just as I do her.
I dont know what the point of this is,except I just wanted to say it.
{{{HUGS}}} I have 3 year old twins, boy and girl. And I also have a soon to be 18 year old girl. I can't even begin to imagine the loss you must feel. Just wanted to extend my sympathy
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Today is the birthday of my twins,33 yrs. old ! Boy and a girl. I lost the boy 8 yrs. ago to suicide. Holidays are still a bit less joyous but the birthday really gets me. I remember exactly the day they were born and all that was happening. I dont know if my daughter feels this way on this day but, sure wish I could see him now as a grown man and tell him how proud I am of him,just as I do her.
I dont know what the point of this is,except I just wanted to say it.
My heart goes out to you... Losing a child has to be the hardest thing to go through.

I pray you are doing alright... *hugs*
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Sorry for your loss. Treasure the memories and remember the happy things.
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My heart goes out to you! I can't even imagine what that would be like. If there were some magic words to say surely someone would have said them by now... but I did want you to know that someone is thinking about you today and cares very much...
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So sorry to hear that. I can't even imagine your pain
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