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Dealing with Grief and Loss The grieving process is difficult. When we lose someone close to us, we go through many different emotions.

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post #16 of 18 (permalink) Old 09-18-2012, 10:49 AM
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This has to be the most insensitive comment I've read in this section.

Who are you to say she's creating problems?

"Don't worry about your dead daughter,she even didn't know who u are"

Either there's a serious language barrier or you don't know what loss feels like and probably shouldn't comment here.
who said she's creating problems ? That dog thing creates an extra problem for them. That's what I was talking about. Anyway don't wanna quarrel here.

I just wanted her to be feel ok. I know it's hard. Several years back, the same thing happened to someone I know. Explaining about why I said that (she didn't even know you) might not suitable for this thread.

loss is all about memories.


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I am so so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you both. My only advice I guess would be to give your hubby some time to process this. Sometimes men and women work on slightly different timelines. Men seem to internalize. I will pray for your little angel.
There is nothing really to say except, that you are now a mom. A grieving mom but one of us. My heart goes out to you. Don't give up, live your life for your baby-she'd want you to.
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First of all I want to say I am very sorry for what you are going through.
When I was 16 I became pregnant. I was scared but very excited. My boyfriend left me because I refused to give the baby up or abort.
When I went in at the 20 check up/gender ultrasound the doctors noticed something was very wrong. I was sent to a specialist for the next day. I showed up nervous and had another ultrasound and sadly my daughter (found out that day my baby was a female) had passed away in uetero. I was devastated and alone.
I had to wait 5 days to go in the hospital before the induction was started. 30hours later my daughter was born. I had some complications and had to have a lot of medication. I wasn't ever able to see my daughter or hold her.
The reason I am sharing my story is so you understand that you are not alone.
I thought for years that I was "ok" or "handling" things fairly well considering...but I wasn't. My relationships with my family and friends suffered. I lost a lot of weight, did drugs, drank and basically went off the deep end.
I never sought help for my daughters death until I got married. I am now 24 years old ...its been 8 years since she passed and it still hurts but after seeking help from a counselor and meeting other women who've lost their babies I learned to draw strength from their support.
My advice is don't think or even try to "get through this" on your own. You are allowed to be pissed, hurt, sad, even relieved whatever you feel is valid and it should be expressed.
Please don't push seeking help off as long as I did. I was suffering from PTSD and severe depression and its taken a long time to get through it but I am much happier now.

On the issue of the puppy...I agree that getting a puppy right now was probably not the best idea...but in your husbands defense he very well might have thought this would be a welcomed distraction from the loss. Men and women handle miscarriage and still births differently..but the only way you are both going to know where the other is coming from or how you are feeling is to communicate openly and honestly about it. And I highly suggest you both seek some support of some kind to help you mourn and help you move forward together.
If you ever need someone to talk to ...I am always here...please feel free to private message me anytime.
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