05-07-2009, 02:36 PM
Join Date: May 2009
| | Re: Lies and Abandoment
Originally Posted by emadams18
He's so back and forth all the time. I've told him that I think there is someone else, but he claims that that is the last thing on his mind and that if there was someone else he would tell me no matter how much it hurts me. I did get a hold of his brother to tell him that I had one of his un-employment checks and if he wanted it he would have to call me. So when he called me I asked him why he would do that to me, and he replied with I'm just too scared. We had a good long talk and agreed that we do love eachother and that we would go through with the divorce and start over from scratch and that if it worked out we could get re-married and if it didn't we could walk away no strings attached. We think it'll help us both figure out what we want. I'm just afraid for him to flip the switch on me again and repeat what he's done already.
I would end his back and forth... if he comes by unannounced do not answer the door, change the locks if you have to...
have him put in for a change of addy with the post office so his mail will not be sent to you.
If he wants to see you , he can call and make arrangements a week in advance. Whatever you do, do not have a swinging door as he could take advantage of it and you, which will only make you feel bad.