Re: Helping him move on
Gunthar and Bene,
Thanks for the good advice. That is basically what I have been doing. We have had some very open talks, and I see that he is going to need a lot of time to be in the right place for that again. I did remind him, just like you said, Ben, that if the situation were reversed, he would have wanted her to be happy and love again without guilt, which he agreed with no hesitation. I am here for him as a friend, and we talk here and there, I send him a text that I'm sending him a hug, and he sends the same back. But we have both backed completely off of the whole pursuing a romantic relationship thing, and that's fine. He's a wonderful person, and when he's up for it, waaaaay down the road, if I'm still free, I'd be happy to revisit this with him. But right now, friends is just perfect for both of us.
Thank you for your thoughtful input. It is clear to me that you are both right, and I appreciate you re affirming that I am handling it best for him and me.
Have a great day!