Should I feel bad/guilty?
 Talk About Marriage
  The Marriage Advice and Relationship Help Forums
  right
Forums - For Therapists - Link to Us - Advertise  

    A Public Forum Provided by The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory
Register FAQ Community Search Today's Posts Mark Forums Read

Navigation »Talk About Marriage »Focused Topics »Dealing with Grief and Loss » Should I feel bad/guilty?

Dealing with Grief and Loss The grieving process is difficult. When we lose someone close to us, we go through many different emotions.

Reply
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Search this Thread
Old 11-19-2012, 05:05 PM   #1 (permalink)
Member
 
RandomDude's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 8,255
Default Should I feel bad/guilty?

Since seperation I've noticed that I'm dealing with this alot better than my STBX, however, her playing "emotional catch-up" (brilliant term to coin it, thanks btw), has made feel a bit guilty about all this.

Is this guilt healthy? Or should I block it out? It took me a while to deal with the shock at first, as well as changing my routine since now I have an empty household. I'm heading for a drive soon, pick up the new Hitman game to get my mind off things. I cope by trying to make myself smile again, letting nothing keep me down, but at the same time with how the STBX is acting, I almost feel guilty about living life and trying to keep myself off depression.

I am no longer an alcoholic and I guess I'm now addicted to having a clear head to work through things, but I know that if my STBX sees me smiling then it's just going to make her feel more like sh-t, and I don't want that. So... should I feel guilty?

This is my coping mechanism, does this make me heartless?
RandomDude is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Old 11-20-2012, 12:16 PM   #2 (permalink)
Member
 
Jellybeans's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2011
Posts: 19,372
Default Re: Should I feel bad/guilty?

Sorry to hear you guys are separated. Are you living together? Getting a divorce?

There is nothing wrong with filling up your time with things you enjoy. Everyone cops differently. But, Random, be advised, it is probably going to catch up w/ you sooner or later--the grief, that is. You may feel fine one second and later it will hit you like at on of bricks. It's normal.
Jellybeans is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Old 11-20-2012, 05:41 PM   #3 (permalink)
Member
 
RandomDude's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2010
Posts: 8,255
Default Re: Should I feel bad/guilty?

Nope, we've seperated and co-parenting now, and we have to wait a full year b4 divorce - AUS law

As for the grief... guess that's another reason I'm trying to stick to business-only talk with my STBX and avoiding her as much as I can. Thanks though, it's good to know I'm still sane... sort of
RandomDude is offline   Reply With Quote Quick reply to this message
Sponsored Links
Advertisement
 
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on Talk About Marriage, you must first register. Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.

Important! Your username will be visible to the public next to anything you post and could show up in search engines like Google. If you are concerned about anonymity, PLEASE choose a username that will not be recognizable to anyone you know.
User Name:
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off


Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Should I feel guilty? horserider42 Coping with Infidelity 15 12-20-2013 09:39 PM
Feel guilty TINPHX Coping with Infidelity 14 02-15-2013 04:07 AM
I feel guilty... Eddie Coping with Infidelity 24 01-27-2012 12:38 PM

Member Area

Find a Therapist:


Sponsor Ads


Sponsor Ads




Get The Family & Marriage Counseling Directory Help Guide via Email:
Name:
Email:




All times are GMT -5. The time now is 08:35 AM.



Copyright 2007 - 2013 © Talk About Marriage

SEO by vBSEO 3.6.0 PL2 ©2011, Crawlability, Inc.