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Dealing with Grief and Loss The grieving process is difficult. When we lose someone close to us, we go through many different emotions.

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post #16 of 18 (permalink) Old 04-06-2013, 08:23 PM
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Re: Son passed away, need help dealing with this

It wasn't your fault and I'm so very sorry for you and your family.

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Re: Son passed away, need help dealing with this

My deepest condolences to you and your family Nothing that we say will make it better, you both need counseling and please look for forum where you can meet other parents who have lost their child. Your son will be resting in peace.

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post #18 of 18 (permalink) Old 04-13-2013, 08:34 PM
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Re: Son passed away, need help dealing with this

I am so, so sorry for your loss I lost an infant too. Not to SIDS, but I know the guilt and pain of thinking it must be your fault, something you did. It's not. SIDS is such a cruel thing in that even if you were in the room with your baby at that very moment, there is nothing you could have done to save your child. Nothing. It's impossible for us as parents to accept it, but it's true. It sounds to me like you are suffering from PTSD. There is no shame in that. I went to therapy twice weekly for two years, then weekly, then monthly, now not at all. I did a type of therapy called EMDR. Look up EMDR therapists in your area. It saved my life. Again, I am so sorry for your loss. It will be a long time until your heart begins to heal, for me it was nearly two years before I realized I would survive this, but you will. And your child will always be there with you in spirit. If you are open to it, they will find ways to let you know this. Also, it's okay if you and your wife grieve differently. That's normal. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, so long as you respect each other. Remember that in the days ahead. My heart goes out to you. I'm so, so sorry.
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