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Dealing with Grief and Loss The grieving process is difficult. When we lose someone close to us, we go through many different emotions.

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Old 08-29-2009, 03:10 AM   #1 (permalink)
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My sister who just turned 45 dropped dead of a heart attack tonight. Value each day, I know I am. Wow this is surreal
I can't believe it.
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Old 08-29-2009, 04:58 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Jeepers. 45 is young. Hang in there. Not much else to say
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Old 08-29-2009, 08:27 PM   #3 (permalink)
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45 is very young to drop dead.. was she diabetic? if she was, it would make more sense.

I've found that through death of family members, it has only made me realize how short life is... and what really matters. It has alos made me drop some people from my life as I deemed the relationships a waste of my time on earth.
When someone close to you dies it is a somewhat profound experience for the ones who are left...
at least it was for me.

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Old 08-29-2009, 08:35 PM   #4 (permalink)
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My sister who just turned 45 dropped dead of a heart attack tonight. Value each day, I know I am. Wow this is surreal
I can't believe it.
my health & wellness guy at work said the average age for first heart attack in america is now 46 yrs old. scary huh?
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Old 08-29-2009, 08:49 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Preso she was heavy/obese and a heavy smoker 2 packs a day. Yeah it's unbelievable, she was also starting to get very religious about two weeks ago and decorating her house with crosses, makes you wonder.
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Old 08-29-2009, 08:53 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I'm so sorry Martino, although I'm glad she ended her life in a good place. I know your pain all too well. My thoughts are with you.
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Old 08-29-2009, 08:58 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Thank you.
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So she was a middle child survived by both parents and even a grand parent. How do you deal with that at holiday time? I don't know how I will.
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Preso she was heavy/obese and a heavy smoker 2 packs a day. Yeah it's unbelievable, she was also starting to get very religious about two weeks ago and decorating her house with crosses, makes you wonder.

I have had many people in my family die, as well as friends, and countless patients who I befriended during my work as a health care worker....

some not very old.
I find each time... it is a shock, no matter if they were old or even sick...
when your told they died, it feels like a suprise.

There is a period of sadness, followed by a period of
pondering life in general. It wears off in time ... guess because we learn to accept the deaths and our assessments of what life is all about... and the shortness of it...
the realizations how we all die and many other things we conclude during our time in mourning emotionally and questioning the value and meaning of life.


I'm just letting you know it will wear off after some time
as we grow to accept the death and our conclusions we come to about death and life during mouring.

Guess I'm trying to say, it will get better.
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Im sorry to hear about your loss, I lost an uncle a few weeks ago to cancer, it will heal with time, holidays and birthdays are the hardest to deal with. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thanks for your words and thank you Preso, I know what you mean. I've been thinking over a lot of things since Friday.

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Sorry to hear about your sister, terrible. Condolences to you and your family.
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Thanks for your words and thank you Preso, I know what you mean. I've been thinking over a lot of things since Friday.

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yeah
I did a lot of that too... it will wear off.

I did not find it a comfortable and nice place to be emotionally to do all that pondering during the grieving process.
It felt so.... hmmm, how to describe it...

I dont know but it was depressing... and kind of philospohical
and I didn't like that place much.

it will get better. It seems to wear off in time.
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