Re: My GF's ex committed suicide
I think you need to back way off OP. You are investing too much into a person who is not able at the present time to return your affections. Your girlfriend sounds like she is overwhelmed, and I agree with the others that you are very low on her priority list. I know you love her and you have tried to help, but you are spinning your wheels against forces you cannot hope to overcome.
My advice is to start detaching. Start living for yourself again. Turn off the phone when you get home from work. Go jogging, work out, take guitar lessons.... In a sense you need to get back control of your life because you have focused on her life too much.
I also get the sense that to her you were a rebound relationship. You were the avatar for the husband she left. She was not used to being without a man and used you to fill the gap. Now that her husband died she has found other things to fill that gap with. You no longer fit into her life. You have outlived your usefulness to her. I think yo may need to accept the fact that you loved her far more than she ever loved you. I'm not saying this to hurt you, but to make you think of the worst case scenario. Look at her actions towards you and ignore her words. What do her actions speak to you?. Her ignoring you and reducing communication to one text a day speaks volumes to me.
Frankly I would not accept this kind of treatment, regardless of whether or not she is mourning her late ex or not. I don't buy the fact that this is the reason she is detaching from you. Her actions say she wants you gone, but she is too much of a coward to tell you.
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Last edited by LostViking; 09-25-2013 at 09:57 PM.