Join Date: Apr 2013
Location: White Mountains of AZ
Re: Losing a pet....
It's awful, man, I know. I had to put one dog down (black Lab mix, at 13 years old) and lost another one (German Shepherd mix, at 12) in an accident.
The second one was harder. I never had pets growing up (my mother had allergies) and always wanted a dog. My wife came to the marriage with the Lab and while it was a good dog and I liked it, it was always "hers," and responded to her first, followed her around the house, etc. We got the Shepherd as a puppy and I really bonded to it hard, so that is the only dog in my life that I really considered mine. So losing that one hurt both me and wife a whole bunch.
You'll be sad for a few days. My wife and I look back fondly on the funny things our dogs did and the happy moments we have. There are still rare moments of sadness but we focus on the good memories and remind ourselves that both dogs were 12+ years old, which is old for big dogs, so they lived very full lives ... and we rescued them both after being abandoned, so they were loved and cared for their whole lives rather than being out in a harsh world. That helps.
And I would not rush into getting new pets right away. You can't really replace Domino; you'd be making new memories with a new pet, and it's not fair to hold a new cat to the standards of the old one.
Best wishes and hope your sadness lifts soon.
She and I are in this together, no matter what happens ... two against the world .....
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