My husband and I started therapy. We met once together, then set up two sessions where we meet with the counselor individually. My one-on-one session was first. I told him that I am tired of H's ignoring me, dismissing me when I am sick, leaving me in the hosipital alone, and general lack of empathy. He had a close loved one die two years ago, and he tuned out completely. He said he 'went into morning'. Then a couple weeks ago 'he decided to make me happy again'.
We have been together 14 years.
I was not prepared for what the conselor said. He told me that H is a passive, non-empathetic, narcissist. I am a caretaker. My H may be the root of my depression as it coincides with the timeline of our relationship. I need to start standing up for myself. I can't let this go on for years to make a decision, that counseling starts taking root within 3 months.
I am spinning, but paralyzed with his quick judgement. What is his goal? Is he trying to shake me up. To scare the crap out of me. Or try to make me not feel guilty for the demise of my marriage.
I have a little boy. I am capable of supporting him on my own. But I truly didn't expect to have to.
Anyone have an experience like this?