07-22-2010, 06:58 AM
Join Date: May 2010
| | Re: IS this normal for a marriage counsellor
When my ex and I went to counseling, she never shared any of her personal information with us. The most personal she got was to share her training with us - where she went to school, etc. I would suppose it could be a method of trying to identify with you and make you more comfortable and clearly it didn't work with you. Also, I think any counselor is going to have a more similar background to one or the other of you; that's just a given. But even so, they should still work hard to be impartial, and if they can't be impartial, they should say so and refer you to another therapist, which he has not done.
I definitely agree that you should find another therapist for the couples counseling, and tell your husband if he wishes to continue to see this guy for individual counseling, fine, but that for couples counseling he's just not going to be effective.