Re: considering marriage counseling
Something I learned from my failed marriage is that it is never to early to learn to communicate. Each of us to a degree feel we can communicate effectively, but the reality is that often we don't. The skills needed to successfully negotiate a career path or sell a product may or may not translate into our relationships. But the problem is that most communication skills that we develop are geared towards non-emotional or at least lower leveled emotions and not towards love and intimacy. Look around here and read the many threads, one of the common elements is almost always lack of communication. You may think you are communication your message to your husband, but he may not hear you because he has filtered that thru his idea of the marriage. Your in laws may be trying to communicate love towards you but you may not be hearing them either. A disinterested, unbiased, third person should be able to view your situation from 50,000 feet and see some of the problems. So I would definitely recommend counseling. The only thing you have to lose is your marriage. If your husband refuses, I would still recommend it for yourself.
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