06-25-2011, 09:43 AM
Join Date: Jan 2011
| | Re: I'm going to counciling
Your wife can expect it to not be all about you. It is good that you take responsibility for the problems, but does she as well? If your wife expects YOU to be the focus of the therapy, she is going to be very disappointed, and she may be the one to think the counselor doesn't "click" with the two of you. Walk in willing to listen to one another - not point fingers.
To get the most out of it, you both need to walk in taking equal responsibility for where your marriage is now, and leave blame at the door. You both need to have a common goal - to make the marriage work. If either of you walk in with the attitude of "too little, too late" then it probably won't work out. Lastly, you both need to "put the work in" outside of counseling. Don't rely on your counselor to "fix" your marriage. It doesn't work that way.
Magnoliagal is correct. Be prepared to shop around. There are lots of counselors with the licenses required but few with the skills needed.