Re: Counsiling made it go downhill - QUICK
Sometimes, especially with MC, it can get worse before better. No one size fits all approach!
However, as long as you both are committed to working on things. She may be angry and defensive but as long as she keeps going and participating it's a good sign.
You could NOT have moved forward, if these issues weren't laid on the table. Each of you, need to know what the other wants/needs. If those needs aren't being fulfilled then that person is unhappy and may attempt to seek it outside of the marriage and/or the marriage dies.
It hurts to hear the truth. Now..lets see what you both do with it!
Good luck to you both.