Re: Did marriage counseling help your relationship or make it worse?
That's great. Marriage counseling is like the biggest step to reconciliation a couple can take, even when the lasting impression of whatever problem caused it remains for like the rest of the relationship. Seriously, the friends, the in laws, all the fun filled stuff that causes so many issues, the tv the computer, the video games, never go away, the simple fact is, dealing with it is what helps, finding an emotional outlet for all the stuff that clashes in a relationship is the solution. Marriage counseling resulted in this for me, it was about agreeing with my spouse about what a crock of stuff the whole thing was and coming to a realization that marriage has to be something more than counseling and being counseled through it. Frankly marriage involves sex and no third party opinion is going to change the whole of it. So with that and knowing all the issues aren't going to go away, and the idea of an emotional outlet takes the place of a hobby, to de stress, one has to find what it is one is emotionally releasing and why, and why one is warming up to other things like money clothes furnishings tools problems, whatever, and go back to the legal binding rules and realize it is either about the person the problems or the stuff and either use marriage itself as a hobby, job, or annoyance and face acceptance or enjoyment. The only thing equal in the marriage are the legalities. Everything else can be divided into halves and percentages beyond.