11-15-2011, 10:48 AM
Join Date: Oct 2011
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So my W and I both see our own therapists. She for much longer than I have because she has been dealing with issues with her daughter's father. I have just recently started (4 visits) because our marriage was my biggest problem to work on. We are successfully working on our marriage right now, and I can see things improving. We have had an absolute awful year of loss, grief, lies, infidelity, family member's drug addiction, sexual abuse, family member's suicide attempt, illness, no-love, in-love, up and down...etc... I hate 2011 !!
But anyway both of our therapists think that we should seek marriage or couples counseling. My W and I spoke about this and she agreed too. However she has made no attempt to get us in to see somebody. Granted its only been a week or two that we thought we should go, but she hasn't brought it up. So in my last session I got about 6 names of people we could call. I showed me W the list and she was like ok.
I told her last night that I would call and get us in somewhere. I was wondering if anyone thought it would be alright if I asked her to do it? I want to know that she wants to go, and wants to work on the marriage. I mean I honestly believe she does, because she is improving lately along with my own improvements. Or is it something that she would just assume I make the call, find out when is good for her to go and book it? Like just take control. Problem is, she knows my work schedule is very standard 9-5, her days are very choppy, sometimes kids doctors' apts, sometimes her own therapy session, kid might have a half day at school. I thought a good way to get her to call and book us for a session would be to explain that she knows her schedule more than I do.
I don't want her to give me the "you're the one who put us in marriage therapy". If things don't work out good or something, or if she doesn't like it.