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Any suggestions?
I've YET to meet one person whose studied psychology (or took courses in it) that isn't bat sh!t crazy.

It's like they are drawn to the subject or something. Anyway, tell her to, "get some counseling or get a lawyer."

Her choice....

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I've YET to meet one person whose studied psychology (or took courses in it) that isn't bat sh!t crazy.

It's like they are drawn to the subject or something.
Ummm. I have ten years of education and three degrees in psychology . I'm pretty rational.

(That's what they all say )

The riff between medicine and psychology has been around for a while. It's not new. But in general MD's have a bit of the God complex so that won't change. They're the problem fixers.
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See... THAT'S not helpful LOL.

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We could generalize it further and say everyone is a tad bat poop crazy. Its not helpful though...
Everyone is a bit BSC, it's how they deal with it. If I had to guess I'd say she makes more than you and likes to think she is in charge in a rather nasty way. That is not the recipe for a successful marriage.

Depending on where you live, some evidence of her BSC may be useful for divorce filing and custody hearings.
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Ummm. I have ten years of education and three degrees in psychology . I'm pretty rational.

(That's what they all say )
Aren't you voting for Hillary?!? If so, I stand by my original statement.


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I should just grab her by the hoohaw? What could go wrong?
Ewwww... why would you want to? Besides, I don't think your wife would approve of that. Sounds like you got enough on your plate with her.

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Have you tried individual counseling for yourself? Just because she won't consider it, doesn't mean that you shouldn't. Maybe a counselor would be able to give you tips on how to respond to certain situations.

Do you feel like she treats you as a child or that she looks down upon you?

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I mentioned to her once I had talked to my primary care doc about just me talking to someone. Huge fight ensued, so it would have to be done in secret and I don't see pulling that off since I pretty much have to account for my time. She couldn't stand the thought of someone discussing her without her being there.

She is the oldest of 7 siblings and her mother passed away during childbirth when she was 15 and she was in charge of her siblings and raising a baby. Its good to be queen and she sees no reason to share power. I guess that's the best way to explain it.
So, she gets mad. So what. Let her throw a tantrum. Going despite her being mad about it makes a stand for yourself. You have to start somewhere.

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