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post #1 of 4 (permalink) Old 12-14-2016, 02:58 PM Thread Starter
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Counseling or support groups

I never had the money for counseling so I went to several kinds of cheap or free 12 step anonymous support groups here in L.A. This came about when a friend suggested that I go to counseling ALONE since my then wife was never going to do such a thing as she HAD NO PROBLEM.
I am very glad I attended support groups because I've heard some very troubling stories about bad/inadequate counselors and even encountered a few of those myself.
So that is my experience with this topic but, if you have the $$$ and time to look around for a competent counselor, go for it.
I"d image that the end result of finding ways to deal with others and your self can be found at either groups or individual counseling. I just happen to get the answers I needed from attending groups but my then marriage failed anyway and I left her after I achieved a little emotional healing and could not go on living in a violent, frightening, unhappy, doomed and DYSFUNCTIONAL marriage with an alcoholic.

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Re: Counseling or support groups

I think that counselors, today, are really nothing more then con men/women looking to make a buck off of desperate people. In some states they are not even required to have a degree. There is no guarantee that they will help you, only that you pay them.

"I've paid double for every transgression I've ever made and that motel and that boat are little to ask for"
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Re: Counseling or support groups

Therapists bring their own bagage and beliefs into the session that you pay for. They may judge you negatively for the rest of the time you are their patient / client for something you said / did.

In any case, for some, having a confidential listening board is necessary....... so that you don't drive your partner crazy.

I go to a therapist now. She does say some things that make me think other times, I am probing her so that she doesn't get away with sweeping remarks........ as if she's solved a problem with the use of some platitude.
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Re: Counseling or support groups

However, let yourself and your partner free while communications, expressing feelings, complaining and more. Being true and honest always will let you develop trust automatically, and you would not be required to make special efforts.
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