Re: Why men avoid marriage counseling...
Men avoid marriage counselling as they assume they will be blamed. Women like it for the same reason.
If you cannot make it work, that chances of the third party being able to help. I recall from relationship break-ups, you could talk and talk, but once she was dumped she would want to listen. Of course, had she been willing to listen in the first place we would not have broken up.
MC was great for me, but only because we did it in Denmark with a Danish counselor. They have the same expectations of men and women, so my wifes assumptions made her jaw drop on occasion (and she promptly closed it again to look neutral). That reassured me that I was the sane one.
We briefly went with a an English one afterwards, who was keen to declare me the devil himself as my wife felt pressured to contribute to the marriage.