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post #16 of 24 (permalink) Old 10-13-2012, 05:32 PM
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Re: Counseling SUCKED! Worst decision ever.

Ya this is confusing. It seems as if this was ongoing. Even one night out clubbing seems troublesome for a healthy marriage.

If this is all stuff that's 10-15 years old, you guys got problems beyond clubbing my man...

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post #17 of 24 (permalink) Old 10-16-2012, 03:40 PM
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Re: Counseling SUCKED! Worst decision ever.

IMHO a good therapist would not tolerate the screaming and blaming. If you guys couldn't follow the MC's directions while in session that is probably something you each need to work on separately. If MC just sat there and let you have it out, they were a hack.
MC can be really difficult and I had a day last time when I was so mad at him and the MC and threw a tantrum later. There are some things it is so hard to hear.
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post #18 of 24 (permalink) Old 10-28-2012, 10:45 PM
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Re: Counseling SUCKED! Worst decision ever.

Originally Posted by that_girl View Post
Why did you get married if you wanted to be a party boy?
Party boys shouldn't get married. Married boys get other married boys together on designated semi-quarterly nights in their basement bars to watch NFL and eliminate the need for counseling; adjourning before midnight.
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post #19 of 24 (permalink) Old 10-30-2012, 08:37 PM
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Originally Posted by OnraSR View Post
Topic of my thread "counseling sucked! worst decision ever"

and i went on to describe my experience. When i did this in another thread, they quickly said "bad therapist"

The reason im posting this thread is that my wife and I are having issues and it would be great if we could get some help, but if it would be anything like our past experience, it would be the end of us.

So i didnt mean to say the therapist sucked, what i meant to say was "now i know you might say the therapist sucked ..."

With all that said, can i really be the only couple who had a war once a week upon leaving a session? How can we avoid this going into a new therapist?

should we interview them? ask for opinions or research some how?
Therapy will never work if you go into it thinking that the therapist will do all the work.
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post #20 of 24 (permalink) Old 10-30-2012, 09:43 PM
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The therapist can only get you so far, you need to continue the discussions with eachother after and often to resolve things.
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post #21 of 24 (permalink) Old 10-30-2012, 10:34 PM
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Re: Counseling SUCKED! Worst decision ever.

What I read was that you didn't like therapy because working on your marriage got in the way of you going out and partying.

Gee, I can't imagine why you were having marriage problems.
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post #22 of 24 (permalink) Old 11-04-2012, 07:13 PM
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Re: Counseling SUCKED! Worst decision ever.

I am assuming that your party days are over...after 10 years.

I would suggest MC again. Find yourself a good recommended therapist and go for it! But.......only go for it, if you are both willing to put the time, work, and effort into the sessions/homework.

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post #23 of 24 (permalink) Old 11-23-2012, 07:30 AM
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Re: Counseling SUCKED! Worst decision ever.

Originally Posted by tacoma View Post
Disclaimer: I'm usually anti-therapy but don't see how you can pin your troubles on the therapist in this case
Out of curiosity, why are you anti therapy? I'm not for or against (or a therapist) I just want to know the rationale. I've been giving thought to going to a counselor myself.
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post #24 of 24 (permalink) Old 11-23-2012, 04:55 PM
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Re: Counseling SUCKED! Worst decision ever.

I am due to go to first counseling session next week with my ex. We have 2 kids and i love this woman. Counselor will be told i love her and want to move back with her and my kids. She will explain that she knows the boys lives will be better with me in them but she doesnt have any feelings romantically for me. I am scared the counsellor will tell us sorry nothing can be done. stay seperated. Then my ex (who said she would like counseling to work) is off the hook so to speak and all my work to get her there is for nada. What possible options can a counselor offer us besides no hope. any suggestions i can make?
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