Counseling SUCKED! Worst decision ever.
About 15yrs ago my (now) wife were having some issues. She is older than me and i was still going through the "club phase" with some friends. So id want to club hop, but she didn't really want to. So me being young, just pushed her out of the way and hit the town. Almost every night.
So we decided to see a counselor. His first advice, which i think maybe had a chance under different circumstances, was to select just one night a week for me to go out. Either she goes with me or not, but either way its my night to party. So i selected Fri night as it worked best for my work schedule.
Coincidentally my weekly therapy session was on Fri night, around 6pm.
So we would go there and by the time he said "ok well that's it, see you guys next Friday" we were screaming, pointing, blaming, accusing, sweating, swearing, etc.
THEN the fun begins! Now its 7pm and we get back in the car together. Screaming continues, of course. Now an hour later its my designated night to go out!
So "excuse me hon i know we are in the middle of glass-shattering screaming right now, but look at the clock ... i gotta go, people are waiting on me!
Needless to say it was a terrible experience. It took us about 3mo to realize we were much better leaving our issues OFF the table, and just not going to this therapist.
My question is; lets say this therapist sucked. How would another therapist have been any different?
The issues still have to come out, the session is still just an hour, we still have to drive home together after opening all our wounds.
So tell me, how are other counselors different?