02-20-2012, 09:47 AM
Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Central Texas/Brazos Valley
| | Choosing a Counselor During Lengthy Separation
After 7 years of marriage, my STBXW and I have been apart since May, 2011 all at her sole request. We now live in separate cities some 30 miles apart. When we living together, we saw a mutual counselor in a major city some 100 miles away. I thought this counselor was pretty good, but seemed to side with my wife more often than not and I really don't know if that was due to the fact of my wifes comfortable wealth. I do know for a fact that she still sees this counselor on a regular basis. My STBXW has recently filed the petition for divorce, and inconspiculously placed a copy of it in my home; but I have not yet been legally served with the petition and summons. Since the beginning of the separation, she has chosen to not communicate with me by phone, mail, or whatever, other than for one random email asking if I had found the petition of divorce that she left in my house.
Given my situation, I feel I really need some counseling. But given the impending divorce situation, I don't really know if it is wise to make an appointment with our old counselor in the metropolitan area, or to contact them and have them recommend a counselor here locally, or just go out on my own and find one for myself.
Any advice in this area would be greatly appreciated!