06-13-2012, 10:24 PM
Join Date: Jun 2012
| | Is this ethical?
Hello, this is my first post. I'll eventually relate my whole story probably, but at the moment, I just need some quick feedback.
Since my wife and I had our big blowup 6 weeks ago, she has been seeing a therapist for individual counseling (she has Social Anxiety Disorder) and I started going to see a marriage counselor by myself, in hopes that my wife would join me.
Although I told her I was going to see a marriage counselor, she thought I was doing individual counseling for something else. Unfortunately I didn't make it clear.
She told her therapist that I had invited her to go see the marriage counselor I've been, and her therapist said that for my wife to see the same therapist (together with me) that I've been seeing for marriage counseling was unethical. I think she told her therapist that I was doing individual counseling.
I think this is just a misunderstanding. I think my wife's therapist thinks I was seeing a therapist for individual counseling, and now I want to switch it to marriage counseling.
I can see why this could be seen as unethical, and I don't want to put anyone in a bad spot. I started going alone because my wife wouldn't come with me at first, and I'd read it was better to just go alone than not go at all.
I like the counselor I have been seeing, and she has told me to keep trying to ask my wife to come along.
Things have gotten really bad and I need some ray of hope. My wife told me she hates me tonight, and said it with a tone of voice that really hurt me. I want to at least try to get us both in front of the marriage counselor I've been seeing, but if it's unethical, maybe I should see someone else?
Thanks for your time.
Last edited by MikeB; 06-13-2012 at 10:32 PM.