Originally Posted by working_together View Post
I'm a counselor, and no, the IC is not allowed to divulge this information without your wife's consent on paper. The only time the IC can divulge any personal info is when the person is at risk at harming themselves.
So basically what you are saying is that, given that my STBXW did, in some individual session with this MC (when I was not present with her), actually confessed to either of her trysts; more especially while they were going on while we were still actually cohabitating under the same roof, then the MC has no obligation to tell me either in her presence if we are together in session, or alone if I am the sole participant~ greatly keeping in mind that the MC's represented objective was to try to save the marriage.
How then could the MC even look me in the eye, knowing of the STBXW's confessed infidelity and knowing that my presence there was to help save the relationship. What would be the inherent benefit in all of this mess, particularly for me?
In essence, does this MC have any type of duty or obligation toward me as one of the patients/clients involved in seeking out their help and assistance in resolving the stated objective of marital harmony?
In this situation, what would be the MC's specific duties to me as a betrayed spouse in this situation, keeping in mind that I paid this person with my own money and was there for what I believed to be joint mutual counseling to help save the marriage?.
Just playing devil's advocate here, but exactly how then, would the MC's harboring of such information as that, be representative of trying to save or better a marriage when their stated objective is supposed to be in working for the interests of the married couple?
Is it even remotely possible that I was only brought in to these sessions as perhaps some form of an "exit strategy" from the marriage by the STBXW?
And is it possible that this "MC" could have wantonly misrepresented herself as our MC, while continuing to clandestinely serve strictly as my STBXW's "IC?"
Truth be known, I honestly do not feel that my STBXW actually disclosed anything about her sordid dual affairs to the MC. But what if?
In essence, I'm just trying to cover all of the bases here!