Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Washington DC Metro Area
Re: If you were against Counselling but eventually went along
Sometimes approaching couples work as skills training/coaching can be more acceptable to a hesitant spouse. I've worked with many couples in which one partner feels they have no issues and/or a therapist has no place in their private issues. I am able to give them the tools to help the eventual private conversations go well.
Approaching it as an interest in improving your ability to communicate, resolve conflicts, and really understand your spouse so that, as you begin to discuss and work through your issues privately as a couple, you are doing so/starting from a better place with strong skills (so that the conversations may actually be helpful.)
And, by participating in skills training with a professional, a hesitant spouse is also able to experience what it is really like in the room, which often helps to relieve some of the mistrust or anxiety about couples work.