Re: Reveal emotional abuse?
The elephant in the room has been revealed and parades around the house on a regular basis. He hates that I am not embracing the alcohol nor blithely accepting the drunkenness and associated behaviors anymore - now that I don't drink. I haven't given him an ultimatum, mostly because I felt guilty for quite awhile for changing our dynamic by quitting. Now I don't feel guilty, but believe that it is his decision to make. I know it's not good for his health, but I'm mostly focused on his actions towards me instead of how he's hurting himself.
I have been reading a lot of books and websites on emotional abuse, including "Love Without Hurt," "Controlling People," "Who's Pulling Your Strings," "Emotional Blackmail," "In Sheep's Clothing," "Your Perfect Right," "Enough About You, Let's Talk About Me," "Beyond Codependency," "Is It You, or Is It Me," "and Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay." The most recent one was "Take the Bully by the Horns." I brought home "Getting the Love You Want," and he refused to talk about it, let alone read it. Told me that he really distrusts my reading the Self Help books. Well, I sure have been reading a heck of a lot. Going to IC, and mustering up the courage to let go of marriage if necessary for my mental health.
I have been attending Al-Anon for the last two months, but have not engaged in the Steps. The group I'm in is solution and healing focused.