Re: Marriage counseling
I have noticed a disturbing misperception on TAM (and elsewhere) about what the purpose of MC is, and that could greatly affect whether or not you see it as a success.
A lot of people and/or their spouses seem to expect that going to a marriage counselor is like going before "Judge Judy" (for the non-Americans on here, Judge Judy is a show where a former judge resolves civil disputes between people. She often insults the people standing in her court - although many deserve it). I think a lot of the spouses who resist going to MC, avoid it for that reason, including my own wife.
The purpose of the counselor isn't to sit there and arbitrate the arguments and tell the couple that one of them is right and the other is wrong. They are there to figure out strategies so the couple can live happier and in peace.
In our case, the MC did help us a small amount, but that small amount was WELL worth it.