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post #31 of 35 (permalink) Old 08-25-2015, 08:02 AM
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Re: Marriage counseling

There are numerous reasons where a marriage can be a disappointment, failure on these days, more persons decide on the separations which are unquestionably not a decent sign. A touch of comprehension and discussion can make great results in an affair and for these, the couples counselors make the needful strides in offering the best help.

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post #32 of 35 (permalink) Old 09-22-2015, 01:10 AM
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MC worked for me.
We are getting divorced. I was lucky to do it initially in Denmark, where there is a tradition of equality and the marriage is seen as an equal responsibility. She came from the American tradition and expected the MC to tell me it was all my fault and that we should work on communication. She told my wife to pull her finger out of her ass and at the end of the sessions suggested I move on. It was not what I wanted to hear, but it was a success.
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post #33 of 35 (permalink) Old 09-29-2015, 04:21 PM
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We recently went to a counselor not long ago over my father residing in our home.

I think we made it 4 visits before my wife pulled plug. It was the only problem in the history of our marriage where we both dug in our heels and wouldn't budge. My wife didn't think it was remotely useful and ultimately just did what she intended to do all along. It didn't end our marriage, but we had probably the nastiest fight in our history.
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No! absolutely no! I was forced into it once and it was the worst experience of my life. All that happens is all of the issues she had with me were brought up and I was made to look like the bad guy. When I wanted to speak and bring up some of the many issues I have with her, I was told to shut up. I was also racially profiled. The "counselor" said that since I was of a certain nationality I was prone to certain undesireable characterists of men. The books that they suggest are also quite stupid.

"I've paid double for every transgression I've ever made and that motel and that boat are little to ask for"
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post #35 of 35 (permalink) Old 10-17-2015, 06:34 AM
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Our first MC was quite good, but didn't get anywhere because we were not honest about our issues. That was in year 8. We were both in a lot of emotional pain and our problems were very raw. In the end she said she wasn't getting anywhere with us and she actually advised us to separate. Which we didn't, both being stubborn people.

Our next MC was in year 11, and she sided totally with my husband who said the issue was that I wouldn't have sex with him. The sessions were all about re-stimulating my 'desire'. It all went very badly because the sex thing was actually a consequence not a cause.

Our third MC was in year 18 and he was the best we had, but he seemed to side with me and told my husband that he was being highly disrespectful towards me. He was the first one to realise that I was afraid of my husband and that my confidence levels were completely shot through. This did help our marriage a lot but I think it came too late. My husband didn't like him much because he felt we needed to rebuild trust before we had sex again.

Now (Year 26) we are looking at seeing a fourth one, because it is a legal requirement when obtaining a divorce in my state and country. Neither of us are looking forward to it.
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