Re: Marriage counseling
Success or failure ......I'm guessing you consider if the marriage stays intact that means it's a success? That's not how I'd view counseling or the outcome of a relationship.
My husband and I saw a therapist for a few sessions when we were in the thick of it. We didn't go with the intention of trying to stay together or necessarily to part either. It was about understanding and learning and being open to the outcome. I'll say it did help me to slow my thinking. We both learned a lot about ourselves and with time, further understanding of each other. We are still married and continuing to grow with one another. I'm doubtful we would have reached that point without the help of a therapist... but it comes down to us, as individuals to change our actions and behaviors, as well as working together. Even if our outcome for the relationship was different, I still would have learned from it. For me/us it was useful.
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