Join Date: Nov 2013
Location: Ontario, Canada
Re: Am I in Marriage Counseling or Individual Counseling with my wife?
My hubby and I had seen a counselor a few years back who asked us to seek individual counseling before seeking it as a couple. unfortunately, we both ended up with people who were not helpful at all. We have been seeing a new counselor and we have found her to be VERY helpful. She tells it like it is and we like that, even if it pisses off hubby. Now that we have had around 7 sessions, I find we talk about Hubby more than myself, but know his upbringing is the reason for this. I am ok with this as I know a lot of his issues are from the way his father controlled and treated him, thus why he seems to treat me bad at times. I feel it all depends on the person you are seeing and knowing what you are looking to get out of all of this. For my Hubby, he found it hard to talk about things that have happened to him and now that he is more open, its helping and I have seen a difference.
I don't understand why your counselor would want you to be ok with being alone and dismissed. What kind of marriage is that if you feel that way? That's ridiculous. Can I ask why you are seeking counseling? I am assuming it was your wife's idea.