[gateway#1]

My wife consistenly uses the kids as an excuse to do little to nothing alone with her husband. I don't just mean things that happen in the bedroom, but everything. No dinners out....no movies out...etc.

Have others had a spouse use the kids, or lack of babysitting, etc., to make excuses for doing things together?

[swedish]

Have you taken on the initiative yourself? Arrange for the sitter, make reservations and take her out.

[happilymarried67]

Originally Posted by swedish

Have you taken on the initiative yourself? Arrange for the sitter, make reservations and take her out.

Except if your children are really little. I didn't go out as much when they were babies. I waited till they were about 9 to a year before I would go out but that is just me.

[GAsoccerman]

yep we moved to a new state had ZERO family with three children....We had no one to trust to watch our children, finally we were able to get a girl from the YMCA that our kids loved and we were able to go out again.

I took it upon myself to hunt down a babysitter and arrange a night out.

May I ask how old are your children?? Is she a stay at home mom as well, some women really have a hard time getting out of mommy mode.