I don't know why I'm unlucky enough to NOT be HER, lol.
He actually broke up with me about 9 months into our relationship. He said that I am everything he wants in a woman, but he is a romantic and thinks that he doesn't love me enough to move forward with our relationship. He said that with our compatible personalities we can date for years but it would be a waste of time in the end.
I was heartbroken but started dating again right away. About a month into our break-up, he begged for me back. He said that during our month apart, all he could think about was me. He tried dating other women, but on dates, he could only think about me, and that other women do not compare to me. He said that he figured out that I am the woman that he wants to be with and he does love me.
I had already started dating other men at the time, and broke it off with the other men just to get back together with him. I've stuck by him through his financial difficulties, and now he's back on his feet financially.
I just don't think I have the strength to break up with him. I hate that I'm settling.
Ok so he told you why he will not marry you. He is not crazy in love with you. You are not THE ONE.
But you came back and begged, so he knows that you will put up with all kinds of disrespect to keep him. You will do until he meets THE ONE.
Has he asked you to live with him? What living arrangements were discussed if so?
Do you have a daughter? Is this what you want to teach your daughter? You will be teaching her that she should settle for whatever some guy offers her, even if it's very little. She will learn that women have no power in a relationship.. only the man does.
If you have a son, think of what you are teaching him.. lesson #1 is that it's quite ok to treat YOU with disrespect.
ETA: By the way, he was trying to do the honorable thing when he broke up with you. He told you where he stood. But you went back and begged him to use you. So much for him trying to be honorable.
This is how a person sets themselves up for heartbreak.