Join Date: May 2012
Location: QLD, Australia; The Promised Land
Re: Kenji's journey
Drerio, it a struggle at times. You really seem to be doing well with your son, and his art is amazing.
One of the issues we have with our aspie son, nearly 25, is that to an outsider he appears normal and functional, except that he looks past people or in the air when he talks to them, and he moves around a lot. This means that no-one really understands the struggle that it is to deal with a grown son who has the emotional & social maturity of a 12 yo, and sometimes I think, the decision making capability of a primary school student.
He also has no ability to link current actions with future outcomes. This leads him down all kinds of bad paths, and he also makes poor choices in his friends.
What we realised as he got older, towards teens, was that he thought he could say 'please' and get whatever he wanted. This came from when he was a toddler and if he asked for something, we would either say 'no' straight up, or say 'say please M'. He then equated in his brain that saying please meant he could have what he asked for. Once something is in his brain, it cannot be removed easily.
He has a photographic memory and an insatiable desire for information. He is lazy and unmotivated, and I can see him living at home with us forever as I don't see him ever being able to function in a full time job.